H is intensely competitive, specially when it comes to N. He likes to think that anything she can do, he can do better. However, at the same time he has quite a dislike for all things he has labelled 'girly'. So it was with a bit of surprise that I discovered him making loom bands the other day. Apparently his competitiveness won over his dislike for 'girly' stuff.
Even at 8.5 years he is clumsy as ever and can do with some hand-eye coordination practice, as also with a hobby that involves him keeping quiet and sitting in one place for some amount of time (other than watching the telly). I was one happy mum :-).
Linking to Mel's # Microblog Mondays . Do drop by to see how others are faring after the weekend.
Also, linking to ABC Wednesday for the letter E for Engrossed.
On a somewhat related note I stumbled across this debate here on the Net about whether boys and girls learn best if they are segregated in single sex classrooms.
Research suggests children perform better in single-sex classrooms. Some maintain that the teaching pattern is skewed in favour of girls since sitting in organised classrooms works well for them while boys are better at hands on learning.
However as a mom to a pair of different sex twins I find myself disagreeing. Of course life would be much simpler with same sex kids, just as it would be easier with single sex children in a classroom. However the education we're aiming at doesn't have only to do with scores, is it? Boys and girls are different, that's a fact. Their brains are wired differently, also a fact. Out of the classroom they have to live, love, compete and socialise with each other. The earlier they learn how to do that, the better.
H and N fight. A lot. Yet they have been teaching and learning from each other with no awareness of it. Without going into whether an ability is a 'boy skill' or a 'girl skill, here's how..
H might continue to be a Barbie destroyer but he has mastered plaiting their hair albeit shabbily, he knows how to make loom bands and, wonder of wonders, often remembers to put down the toilet seat! He makes an effort at drawing, crafting, singing and dancing again thanks to N.
As for N, she's as girly as girls come but can throw a mean punch, enjoys computer games and is addicted to the outdoors perhaps even more than H.
Together they're good!
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