Thursday, December 31, 2015

The end-of-year post

I am glad 2015 is ending. It was a tough year. And I have a hypothesis why - a trifle hare-brained but a hypothesis nonetheless.

Let me first state that I'm not superstitious. That said, I did read somewhere that the number 8 is ruled by Saturn and that people who are a number 8 (who's date of birth adds up to  8) are often faced with obstacles. Extending the same logic to the year (Don't ask my why, don't even bother to think if it makes sense) I figured since it was a no 8 (2+0+1+5) it had to be a tough one.

Go ahead laugh away but you had been warned.

The Husband was away (and unhappy) for most of the year and the kids and I got onto each other's nerves. They faked unending illnesses and drove me crazy and if they'd be blogging they probably write how I'd driven them up the wall with my impatient ways and my continuous yelling. Sigh! Nope, none of us has been easy to live with.

Later in the year a very good friend, a kind of 3am buddy, moved away to a different country. Even though we weren't together all the while we did make time for much needed coffee dates and I could talk to her about pretty much anything. That is rather rare because although I talk a lot (to almost anyone) I don't share much of the real stuff easily.

Then our Zumba instructor quit and my exercise schedule crashed. Only if you are an exercise regular will you realise how dreadful that can be. It plays havoc with your fitness  and what's worse, it makes you unhappy and crabby and totally unfit for any kind of company.



However as the year ends things are seeming to fall into place and I have a good feeling about 2016 - it's a nice number 9 :-). I'm not a resolution person - one year is really too long a time to stick to even one of them. However I can hope and make a wish. And while I'm at it why make just one? So here's what I wish for me in the new year.

With the Husband readying for a new assignment and the kids entrenched firmly in their tweens change is set to be the new constant of my life. I like routine and work best to a plan so change is my undoing. The plan for this year is to be ready with a constantly changing plan. That's my first wish:

Welcome change.

Next on the list is trust. Trust in myself. When it comes to decisions that concern me or the kids I know best, and I need to remember that. Nobody is in my shoes, no one - not my neighbour, not my best friend not even my sister or my mom. And if I make mistakes, well they're mine to own and I shall live with them. This, I need to remember: 

Trust 'me'.

This year I met up with a friend who swears by The Secret. I tried reading the book but didn't quite take to it. However I do believe in the power of positive thinking. Here's the mantra she gave me, 'Focus on what you want, don't obsess about the 'how' or about the obstacles that will stall you - things have a way of falling in place. I like the sound of that. And so that's the third wish:

Believe first, then make it happen.

I'm a master procastinator. Being on my own means there's no one to push me to do things and so the status quo just goes on and on till it can no longer wait and then I have this avalanche of work to deal with and I end up feeling completely overwhelmed. That's my next mantra:

Put off procrastination. 

Fitness is always on my mind however what I need is consistency. Here goes my next wish for myself: One form of exercise everyday baring Sundays - Walk/Zumba/Weights whatever but:

An hour of exercise. 

And lastly for obvious reasons I wish for me, 

Patience.

...lots and lots of it.

What is it that you wish for yourself in the new year? Hope you get it all and that 2016 is as perfect as it can get.

36 comments:

  1. All i wish is to have peace.. when i put my head on my pillow at night i sleep soundly .. :) thats all

    wishing you and family and everyone around you a very happy new year .. may all that you dream come true .. have a fantabulous new year ..
    Bikram's

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    1. Thank you Bikram. Wishing you and your family a happy new year too.

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  2. Mine was a mixed bag, too and agree a tough year it's been. I can relate to this post, I need to trust self more than I do. Happy New Year 2016:)

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    1. It's tough trusting yourself, isn't it? Specially when you take one of those decisions that could just go either way? Good luck Vishal for a happy new year.

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  3. That's a very inspiring post to start my New Year with :)
    I couldn't agree more on the fact that our mistakes and our pain are our own to bear and live with, no one can share it with us.
    Yes, focus is what I too am aimining at this year.
    With so many goals in common (patience included) let's rock 2016 :D
    Wish you & your family a fantastic 2016!

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    1. Glad you found it inspiring. Hope you have a great new year.

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  4. I love this post, Tulika and I completely empathise with many of the wishes you've made for yourself since they resonate with the kind of year I've had too, as you well know. Much love and hugs and hope you have a wonderful 2016. Yes, I am not too superstitious but perhaps there's something in the numbers. I have a good feeling about 2016 too :)

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    1. Cheers to 2016. I know you know what it's like. You're an inspiration - the number of things you manage to squeeze in.

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  5. I can imagine how difficult it must have been. Doing it alone - for any length of time, is not easy - at all.

    Overall - 2015 has been a good year for me. I have had to confront a lot of inner demons, and while it was difficult to deal with them, I am wiser and stronger for having faced them.

    As far as Fitness goes - I plan to make monthly goals in that area, as yearly doesn't work for me!

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    1. Touchwood for you. I hope 2016 is even better. I'm with you in your fitness journey. Other than that one hour everyday I hope to have small-term diet goals too. Nothing too ambitious as I know I won't do it at all then.

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  6. Ahaa...that's some list. I don't ever make new year resolutions or lists, but this makes me want to make one. Patience and Fitness would top my list too. And I sincerely believe I. Positive thinking. Let the year be a good one for one and all. A Very Happy New Year, Tulika! :-)

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    1. Thank you and wishing the same for you and your family. Actually patience should have topped my list. We all need it so. As for positive thinking - that doesn't come easily to me. Need to practice.

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  7. Hahaha! Great minds do think alike! :D

    I'm not one for resolutions either. One year is too long like you said.

    I did hope to blog daily this year though, but Day 1 is already over and no post! :( Maybe if I get time today, I'll cheat and publish 2 posts! ;)

    2016 is definitely going to be better than 2015. Wish you a great new year!

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    1. I haven't even thought about blogging goals though they are very much on the agenda. There's so much to plan!!

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  8. I know a few people who believe in the Secret and the Law of attraction. I haven't been whole hearted about it and haven't read it but at the moment, I'm studying positive psychology {for work} and there is definitely an argument for focussing on the positives. For focussing on things turning out. I love your goals for 2016 and they certainly seem doable.

    I've got a few too around health and wellness and mainly, to be kind

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    1. To be kind - that's a wonderful thought. Have a great 2016.

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  9. I do believe in horoscopes and numbers but I don't think they apply to all. Anyway, I hope this year definitely works better for you. For me 2015 was a roller coaster year -- some ups and many downs. I don't know if 2016 will be similar. But, yes patience, I wish that for me as well. Fitness and health, I pretty much am sorted. Luckily, I have stayed regular with my exercise no matter what. I know completely when you say how one feels when the exercise schedule is disrupted. I wish you better luck with that and everything else, Tulika.

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    1. There is something in numbers then. Now I'm even more hopeful about this year.

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  10. 2015 wasn't great for me either. I'm glad that it is over. :) I am sure this New Year will be much better, I hope so! Focusing on positives definitely will help us in keeping our calm. Wishing you a peaceful 2016, Tulika!

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    1. Happy New Year to you too. Oh yes 'calm' is something I'll be striving for too.

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  11. I am also not a resolution person, though i have my word for the year to keep me going!
    I do believe in the power of positive thinking...Believe first, then make it happen!
    I wish you all the very best for 2016, Tulika! Lots of love!

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    1. Thank you Aditi and wishing you the same.

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  12. Aah! Last year had been a trying one for us too and like you I get a good feeling about 2016 too. Hope it stays that way. Touch wood. May all your plans work out this year, Tulika.
    I do believe in The Secret. It works for me... I wish I could get my act together for some fitness/exercise regime, though. I am terrible at that!

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    1. You know what I'll say about fitness, don't you? Try Zumba :-))))

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  13. Good ones there... Im not for resolutions. But can't agree on fitness. It has been on my mind since ages and burps up with vigour with every New Year.
    As for numbers...lol! Best wishes Tulika. Rock 9!

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    1. Happy new year to you too. Consistency in a fitness regime is hard for me too. Fingers crossed for its year.

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  14. Glad to read that you are looking forward to 2016 with hope and positivity despite your setbacks in 2015, Tulika. Here's wishing you the best for the year to come.

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    1. Thanks Vishal. Hope your year kicked off well too.

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  15. Happy New Year!!

    That was quite a round up!! 2015 was kind of mixed for me too...and I don't make resolutions either.

    in this new year, here's wishing you everything that you so richly deserve!

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  16. That's a great list Tulika. I haven't read The Secret - somehow that book just seemed to slip through my fingers but I've read the book The Secret was based on "Ask and it is given" and that was an amazing read. So Believe and then watch it happen rather than make it happen.

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    1. It sounds like a great philosophy - positivity is anyday better than letting oneself drown in negative thoughts.

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  17. :-) Hugs Tulika. I'd say embrace the year with love and expect good things. Smile a lot (yeah i know, easier said!) But when you consciously think of it, it is easier to do. Somehow, when you think along the lines of "one year from now, will this matter?" it gets far easier. I did that for many years before it became second nature, which accounts for my freaky happy attitude.

    Your post is lovely - and I felt like holding your hand and being your 3 am friend. You know where to find me. Sending you love and yes, I've added you to my morning prayers.

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    1. Aw Vidya that's sweet. Thanks and have a great 2016.

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  18. The need to talk and discuss every little thing still looms large !!!! 3 am buddy has indeed become a 3 am buddy ;-) ( thanks to the time zone) Catch up catch up catch up !!!!

    Missing U loads :)

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    1. Yeah right - even though it's not quite the same thing we have to make do.

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